Debate has long swirled around whether men are required to financially support their partners, or if providing is simply a personal choice.
Pastor Kingsley, founder of David’s Christian Centre, recently addressed the topic during a sermon, arguing that the expectation for men to be sole providers stems more from culture than from any biological mandate.
He added that women should not rely entirely on men for financial support.
His perspective, however, drew a respectful challenge from Mercy, who countered his view with biblical references. While she noted her appreciation for the pastor’s messages, she made it clear that she disagrees with him on this particular point.
In Mercy’s words”
“Dear Pastor Kingsley, I truly appreciate and love your ministry. I regularly listen to your marriage sermons, and they have been a tremendous blessing to me. However, I respectfully disagree with you on this. The Bible clearly states that the man is the head of his wife (Ephesians 5:23, 1 Corinthians 11:3), and the woman is his helpmeet (Genesis 2:18).”
“A helper is meant to support not to carry the entire burden. She is there to assist when things aren’t going well, not to shoulder every responsibility in the home. To me, this is quite self-explanatory. By putting this message out, it seems you may be encouraging a shift where men feel less obligated to provide, while women are increasingly expected to take on that role.”
“The reality is that many women are already functioning as providers, and though your intention may not be to promote that imbalance, such messages can inadvertently reinforce it. I believe it’s important to be mindful of how such narratives are received, as they may lead some men to neglect their “God given”responsibilities. With love and respect.”
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@dovies_naturals:”Men just want to be princesses, that’s all.”
@real_qcweenbee:”I think when they mention men providing y’all thought it’s boyfriend and girlfriend, all these is about husband/wife! Genesis says MAN MUST TILL THE SOIL TO PROVIDE FOOD WHILE WOMAN GO THROUGH PAIN TO BIRTH CHILDREN! Culture says the same, me I don’t know where you see a husband who does not want to provide for his family.”
@ultimatecakesncatering:”A man provides doesn’t mean you should be a liability and not contribute to the running of your home.”
@tastyboxng:”Pastor Kingsley is actually speaking with the woman’s best interest at heart. Women learn to have your own, no matter how little. Depending on a man’s income SOLELY can breed disrespect, frustration and even resentment in the long run.”
@king_mezzzz:”Is it not the same gender fighting for equality? Now you want to push this one on men 😂😂😂. Choose a battle ladies.”
@oluwabegod_melody:”(Ephesians 5:24) Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”
@iam_2simple:”A traditional man should meet a traditional woman , and a 50/50 man should meet a 50/50 woman. As for me i will fully provide and put my wife on direct debit monthly salary.”
@gusterborg:”You for kukuma carry mic dey preach na single you know it all. Do you know the meaning of Helper. The pastor simple meant you should not be dependent on your husband. How can you help your husband when you sole depend on him.”
@kingsaffairs.ng:”Some Men want subm*ssive providers!!”
@funmi_ilashe_beach:”Yes, he is a pastor but not everything he says is 100% accurate and true. Know that and know peace.”
@real_qcweenbee:”Mostly it’s single people who indulge in all these types of argument. Married people are carrying their homes as it best suit them!”
