Nollywood actress Ireti Doyle has spoken about why she didn’t drag her ex-husband, Patrick Doyle, to court after they divorced.
In an interview with Morayo Afolabi Brown, she was asked why she was quiet about her divorce and didn’t say anything about it.
“Let’s talk about your marriage, the divorce, when the divorce happened with your ex, you were both quiet, we didn’t hear from both of you, you didn’t tell us anything, what would you say that experience has taught you or formed who you become today?” Morayo asked.
Responding to her, Ireti noted how it wasn’t anyone’s business to know what was going on. According to her, the only people she owed an explanation to were her family and those who gathered at their wedding.
Ireti noted that social media users don’t care about people and that no one wins on the internet. She said she wouldn’t give herself up as clickbait or perform for them.
The veteran noted that break-ups, especially long-term relationships, are always painful, and that it is better to heal than to engage in online ranting. She admonished the audience to spend more time speaking to themselves, understanding what went wrong, going deep within, and all that, rather than ranting on the internet.
“First of all, you didn’t hear anything because it wasn’t your business. Two people come together to get married, and there’s a celebration. Sadly, something goes wrong, and you can no longer continue your journey together. The only people you owe an explanation to, if at all, are those small family and friends who gathered on day one.
You see, the larger audience you’re performing for does not care.
I personally would never knowingly give myself up as clickbait. You’re never going to win, so who are you explaining your matter to?
The end of a long-term relationship, let alone marriage, is painful. Whatever the circumstances, not apportioning blame is painful. You need to spend the energy you’re using to perform for an audience who doesn’t care to sit down, go deep within, understand what went wrong for the sole purpose of not making the same mistake again”.