Nigerian singer Kingsley Okonkwo, better known as KCee, threw a question to the public as he mourned late actor Alex Ekubo.
Newsunplug reported on Tuesday that the light-skinned actor had passed away on Monday, May 11th, after a battle with Cancer and was 40 years old.
He noted that we are all guilty of being good at eulogies and late with love. He questioned why people only have beautiful things to say about a person at their funeral and wait to post the RIP and long thread.
He questioned why we keep our appreciation locked up until there’s no one left to hear it and clap for people at their graves, but stay silent when they’re struggling.
The brother of E-Money admonished the public to start telling people how proud they are of them, supporting their business, and checking up on their mental health.
“We are all guilty.
We’re too good at eulogies… and too late with love.
A lot of people have beautiful things to say about you.
But they save it for your funeral.
They wait until you’re gone to post the “RIP,” the long thread, the “he was like a brother to me.”
Why do we do that?
Why do we keep our appreciation locked up until there’s no one left to hear it?
Why do we clap for people at their graves, but stay silent when they’re struggling, building, doubting themselves right in front of us?
Your friend, your family, your neighbour, your colleague, your brother,
Your sister, your husband, your wife — they’re here now.
They can hear you. They can feel it. They can be strengthened by it.
Can we start telling people “I’m proud of you” while they’re still smiling back?
Can we start supporting their business, sharing their work, and checking on their mental health while they’re alive?
Can we choose real love, real presence, real compassion… before it’s too late?
Yes, we’re all going to leave this earth someday. That’s the one appointment none of us can cancel.
But until that day comes, let’s not waste the time we have.
Let’s be human to each other.
Let’s say the nice things now.
Let’s show up now.
Let’s make peace, give grace, and love deeply — while there’s still time.
Because the best “RIP” is a life well-loved before it ends.
If this speaks to you, call someone today. Text them. Visit them, tell them what you’ve been holding back. Speak life. Because one day, all we’ll have left are memories.
Don’t wait for the funeral.
Goodbye, Alex, sleep well “.
