Reality TV star Ijeoma Josephina Otabor aka Phyna has said girls in general have no business expecting soft life from men they’re merely dating and haven’t married.
The term “soft life” originated in the Nigerian influencer community as slang for living a life of comfort and relaxation with minimal challenges or stress.
She argued as an unmarried lady in a relationship, other than yourself, the next people to look to for soft life are your father and brother.
However, the BBNaija Season 7 winner stated if a girl is fortunate to find a man willing to sponsor her soft life without her demanding or imposing it on him, then she should by all means enjoy herself.
She said,
“I will say my mind. As a girl, as a girlfriend, I don’t think you should expect soft life from boy wey never marry you. If soft life dey hungry you, go meet your papa. If soft life dey hungry you, go meet your brother. Do you get? It’s that easy.
“But if God con butter your bread say the man you dey with is able and capable, eh, who am I? Enjoy! But don’t expect, don’t impose it? Do you get?
“If soft life hungry you, na three things. One, it’s either you go out there and make your damn money. Two, it’s either you go back to your father. Three, it’s either you go to your brother. One of them”.
Someone asked, ‘What if the person doesn’t have a father or brother?
Phyna replied,
“Erm, if you no get papa. Like me, I’m a living testimony. I get papa, my papa dey alive but e no too get money as at my growing up. I have a brother but na last born. E never even comot for junior secondary school sef.
“So I no get papa, I no get brother (let me put it that way in the soft life part). But I have to go out there and make it.
“I have been hustling since secondary. Auchi Poly, dem know me.”